Online Course

The Divorce Lab

Divorce begins long before the word is even spoken.

Divorce begins long before the word is even spoken. For some couples, it starts as early as the first date. Some relationships were never meant to begin, but what matters is how they end.

Divorces and breakups involve not only the actual severing of emotional ties, but also deep internal crises and processes that affect both the past and the future. Navigating these stages in a way that’s kind to yourself is one of the goals.

In this course, we won’t be exploring divorce—we’ll be exploring ourselves—and in doing so, we’ll create the versions of ourselves that will remain once the relationship ends.

Who is this program for:

For those who are torn between leaving and staying, caught in doubts, fears, and dissatisfaction with their current relationship.
For those who have decided to leave.
For those who are being left.
For those in the process of dividing their lives, assets, children, and the past.
For those who are already “divorced” but aren’t sure what to do next.

This program is designed to be helpful to many, because the focus is always on me. My relationships, how I live within them, what I find, and what I lose.

Course program

Webinar 1

Couples vs. Family:when, how, and why a couple breaks up; how this differs from the breakdown of a system; differences in living arrangements

Codependent Relationships and Breaking Free from Them:how to break free from mature codependency and how to break free from infantile codependency; the dynamics of a breakup; what to expect from yourself and your partner

Separation and Divorce:How the experience of separation makes divorce easier or harder

The Psychological Level of Personal Development:How divorce leads to growth or decline, what factors influence this, and how to manage this process

Psychological and Physical Divorce:The duration of the first and second, and the difference in how they are experienced

If I’m the one leaving/If my partner is leaving:the dynamics of divorce, living arrangements, emotions, and actions in the first and second scenarios

Resources and goals of divorce:what divorce means specifically for you

Webinar 2

Relationship Dynamics During a Breakup:What Changes, What to Expect, Cycles, Stages, and Ways to Respond

Competition:Does It Exist During Divorce? What Are We Fighting Over?

The Power Struggle in Divorce:Conscious and Subconscious Control—How to Recognize and Deal With It

Self-Image:How Divorce Changes Our Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, and Self-Perception

The Memory of Pain:How Our Traumas Influence Our Reactions and Our Learned Coping Mechanisms

Getting Stuck in Emotions:The Duration of Feelings, Processing Emotions, and When There’s a Risk of Getting Stuck

Divorce Narratives:How We Write the Story of Our Divorce and Rewrite the History of Our Relationship

The Reality of the Couple and Partners Separately:The beginning of a psychological divorce is when you are able to separate your desires, thoughts, and plans from your partner’s.

Webinar 3

Dysfunctional Behavior, Abuse:Where Does Divorce End and Abuse Begin?

Manipulation vs. Abuse:How to Distinguish Between Them, Respond, and Protect Yourself

Conflicts During Divorce:What Lies Beneath Them, What We’re Really Fighting For, and Why We No Longer Seek Consensus

Anger and Resentment in Relationships and Systems:Where It’s Directed, Where It’s Contained

Division of Property, Friends, Social Circles, Children, and Money:Practical Advice, Methods, and Impact on Future Life

Emotional and Financial Loss:How to Acknowledge, Accept, and Let Go

B Boundaries After DivorceB :emotional, material, and physical—how and why to establish and maintain them

Webinar 4

Relationship Transformations:from a couple to parents, from a family to close friends, from close friends to enemies, from lovers to friends—where are we headed

Each Partner’s Autonomy and Personal Life:the starting point for the future, and how to find it

Ambivalent Feelings and Coping:how to deal with “love-hate”

Loneliness and the Fear of New Relationships:What We Do to Avoid Loneliness, Does Everyone Need This Experience, and Why “Six Months to a Year Without a Relationship After Divorce” Isn’t Right for Everyone

The Meanings of Divorce:What We Tell Ourselves During a Breakup, Why We Need This Experience

You can join the course as a listener or as a participant.

Listener Package

80 euros

Listener Package: 4 in-depth webinars (2 hours each), chat sessions (15–30 minutes), supplementary information in course notes, and a course chat where you can ask questions and share your thoughts.

You can watch all webinars as recordings or participate live.

Cost of the Listener Package: 80 euros

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Participant Package

320 euros

Participant Package: 4 in-depth webinars (2 hours each), chat sessions (15–30 minutes), supplementary information in course notes, and a course chat where you can ask questions and share your thoughts.

+ 8 therapy sessions. Each session lasts 2.5 hours and takes place once a week. In the group, you’ll be able to practice the topics covered in the course, share your experiences, and receive support.

Group schedule:

Participant package price: 320 euros; payment in installments is available

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Personal Package

320 euros

Personal Package: 4 in-depth webinars (2 hours each), chat sessions (15–30 minutes), supplementary information in course notes, a course chat where you can ask questions and share your thoughts, plus 4 consultations with me.

Package price: 320 euros; payment in installments is available

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The Divorce Lab

In this course, we won’t be exploring divorce—we’ll be exploring ourselves—and in doing so, we’ll create the versions of ourselves that will remain once the relationship ends.

Join the course